His mail

I missed my little guy so much last night and while I was at work today.  I was just counting down the hours until I got to see him again.  I had a very rough day for a variety of reasons and I just needed to pick up my little boy and give him a hug.  He was so tired this afternoon and wanted to spend a lot of time cuddling :) 
Graesen loves his daddy and had a good time with him.  However, even though he is not short on love or attention from either parent, this is still a rather confusing time for him.  He loves and enjoys his time with both of his parents, but he sometimes asks questions and seems to have a hard time understanding what is going on.  One thing that both Evan and I agreed on is doing whatever we can to ensure that Graesen is comfortable and knows that he is very loved.  This means allowing Graesen to make phone calls to the parent he is not with if he is starting to ask about them, a book about our love following him wherever he goes, and I even had him make a build-a-bear with my voice in it. 
One thing I wanted to try with Graesen to make the transition to this new lifestyle a little smoother is writing notes for him.  My sister introduced me to a blog written by a mom who went through a divorce.  She said that when her kids started going to overnights with their dad she would write them little notes and leave them on their pillows.  It became a special little ritual and a chance for her to let her kids know how much she loves them and looks forward to her time with them.  I thought this was a great idea.  The more things Evan and I can do to let Graesen know how special and loved he is, the easier this change will be for him.  So, last night I wrote a little note for Graesen.  I just wrote that I missed him very much and love him.  I put it in his mail box (the one we made yesterday) with a hershey's hug (since I had them lying around and should really share them instead of eating them all on my own).  I told Graesen to check his mail tonight and he thought that it was so special :)  I probably won't put a little treat in there each time, because that is not what it is really about.  It is really about me expressing to Graesen how much I love him and enjoy it when he is home.  I will probably only do it for overnights so that it continues to be a special surprise for him.
He was really excited about this, but the pictures don't really show it.  Poor boy was just so exhausted.

Phoebe and Shawna came over for a little impromptu visit tonight.  Graesen and Phoebe decided to play in the toy chest :)